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Charmingbaby

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How intimate should Christian dating go
Posted : 1 Feb, 2023 11:41 AM

Is it okay for two Christians dating to share nudes?

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How intimate should Christian dating go
Posted : 8 Feb, 2023 11:18 PM

Personally i don't think so if not legally married.This has cost me alot with men I connect with on this site.i made mistakes before and don't want to repeat.i don't compromise my beliefs.i think a decent loving man will understand and know the right thing.Who is that man?Am waiting patiently for you

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Posted : 9 Feb, 2023 11:58 AM

Thanks for your replies. Very encouraging.

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Posted : 17 Feb, 2023 11:26 AM

Charmingbaby, you asked a poignant question and have received awesome diversity of viewpoints based on the responders' personal and religious biases. From my own vantage point, I would say that the questions of whether dating Christians should share nudes is relative and at the same time complex. While some standing on the outside looking in may quickly draw a conclusory "sinful" judgment, I would beg to differ. Unless there is an egregious, pervasive, unbridled demand for your nudes by the guy, it may not necessarily be deemed "sinful" or "pornographic" - as fundamentalist / pentecostal theology would conclude. You will agree with me that your simple one-liner question did not provide to totality of the contexts in the request for exchange of nudes. And, unless we hear from the guy, we would be providing one-sided analysis and conclusions. Interestingly, when sparks fly between two people on digital dating platforms like cdff, whatever transpires, in terms of words, actions, and feelings exchanged has impact that transcends mere religious analysis. Dating interactions between people have psychological, spiritual, and psychosomatic dimensions that cannot be articulated in out-of-context Bible verses.

So, all these to say that it is not Biblically correct to conclude that EVERY exchange of nudes between a dating couple is a "sin." Again, unless the entirety of the encounter is based on that exchange or on pure sexual demands, dating couples have a God-ordained need to discuss, explore, and exchange sexuality stuff - BETWEEN THEM - and without coercion and bad faith. The physical body and all the myriads of love-related hormones were designed by the Good God - our Creator. And he branded all His creations "Good" in Genesis 1. While we shouldn't abuse that good thing, we shouldn't make religious tabboo of them either. Finally, not every man / woman is excited about their physical body and sexual endowments. Some hide under religion to cover and make excuses for their shyness on sexual stuff. Some others are simply jealous of bodies they themselves do not have and would try to impose that thinking on others. But I would say that each relationship is unique and the responsibility for Spirit-guided choices, discernment, and wise judgment rests primarily on the parties directly involved.

Here are some links to read more on other perspectives on this topic:

https://austinempowered.com/sex-science-and-self-determination-theory-in-modern-dating/

https://www.businessballs.com/personal-relationships/ladder-theory-of-sexual-relationships/

https://www.bricefoundation.org/single-post/2016/04/06/sternberg-theory-of-love-and-expectations-from-genders

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Posted : 27 Feb, 2023 09:56 AM

My prince 2023, I do appreciate your elaborate point of view and links for more references.

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Posted : 13 Mar, 2023 06:21 PM

Tx u brother!!

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